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09-29-08 Allowing Free Will Choice

Written by Arianha

Sunday, 28 September 2008 19:37

Many times in our lives we are given the opportunity to allow our spouse, our children, our friends, our boss, our relatives to listen to their own guidance and timing regarding the lessons they came to Earth to learn. Since we don't know what lessons they are learning it's our job to stay out of the way, accept and allow. It contradicts the part of us that would just like them to "get it".
The part of us that feels that if they would just "get it" our lives would be much better, less stressful and more joyous and so we tend to be in a hurry to help them "get it". Sometimes we even exhaust ourselves in efforting to make sure they "get it" only to find that we are the ones who really needed to "get it" in the first place.
In emotional counseling work the person who has the "charge" on the issue or behavior is the one who needs to do the work to release the "charge".
Initially this may seem backwards to some peoples thinking. We tend to think that the person with the upsetting behavior or actions should be the one to do the work. The great miracle comes when the person who has the "charge" about the behavior or action delves into why they are being triggered. When they are able to bring into their conscious awareness the reason for the trigger and do some forgiveness around the person or situation that caused the trigger it ususally dissipates of it's own accord. Then the individual no longer has to show up with the upsetting behavior that triggered you in the first place.
You are now both freed to move forward in your growth. A new level of relating develops between you and the relationship can heal, become whole and help both individuals to grow. This applies to all relationships, parent, child, friends, co-workers, ministers, and congregations.
In supporting new learning we can offer insight, awareness, toools, books, and space for the person to come into a new level of awareness about their actions or behaviors. We can offer an environment for everyone concerned to grow, in their own time and in the way that works for them to "get it". We can offer our patience and compassion while they are going through their growth. On occasion we can offer inspiration, motivation and stimulation to help the person come into a new way of seeing, feeling or being.
Fertile ground helps everyone feel safe to grow. Nuturing the divine spark in people helps them to grow too. Sometimes just seeing the divine in a person regardless of their behavior can help immensely. Seeing the face of Jesus or any other Master on the person will help you to be more compassionate and allow them to come into their our Christ Consciousness.
Remember that if you feel that someone you know or love just isn't getting it it's time to do the healing work on yourself to come to a place of neutrality. Once you feel there is no push or pull to change the other person then you have let go of judgement, condemnation, criticism, anger and frustration as well as many other negative thoughts. The journey of life is a process. Share love on the journey.

OPEN - to guidance, receive truth and blessing

SURRENDER - your personal assessment of the situation

EMBRACE - the truth of what spirit shows you

RELEASE - what you have held in your thoughts and emotions up to this time

EXPAND - your conscious awareness about yourself, the person or situation, the outcome

With these 5 steps you are freed fom limited thinking

Masterful divine consciousness is your birthright - claim it.